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Rewire The Podcast


Aug 23, 2022

Are you wondering how you can establish strong boundaries in today’s fast-paced world? Lindsay and Cait discuss how to set boundaries and cultivate more self-compassion. They also dive into addressing the root of people-pleasing tendencies (i.e. the fawn response), compassion fatigue, and learning how to put on your own oxygen mask first. 

Show Notes:

- Lindsay’s perspective on self-compassion

- Self-awareness, kindness, and common humanity as the main ingredients of compassion

- The “oxygen mask” analogy in giving ourselves compassion before we can give it to others

- Cultivating healthy boundaries as a tool to cultivate self-compassion (especially for caregivers)

- The power of saying “no”

- Regular check-in’s to ensure there is alignment with your daily activities & to-do’s and your core values

- Cait’s experience using self-compassion in her life

- Empathy + action: this creates a forward-moving trajectory in our lives to cultivate the habit of self-compassion

- Allow yourself space to feel all your feelings – give yourself a container to do this on a regular basis

- Stepping away from the “people pleasing” nature or the “fawn response”

- In order to set a boundary, we have to start small. Find one area where saying “no” feels accessible to start. The more frequently you do this, the easier it becomes.

- Recognize your personal body cues that feel like an aligned ‘yes’ or an aligned ‘no’

- Ask yourself: “What need is being met by shifting my focus towards others and away from myself?”

- Compassion fatigue is common among founders, leaders or teams who feel like they are focused on others more consistently. This is an invitation to turn inwards & prioritize your own needs.

- The fawn response: a stress or trauma response that includes people-pleasing behaviors; feeling challenged by self-expression; stifling your own desires or needs; having trouble setting boundaries; being overly apologetic; assuming responsibilities for the emotional reactions of others

- Through self-awareness, ask yourself: “Is it kindness or am I fawning?”

- Remember: compassion is an innate skill that exists within all of us

Resources:

-Link to the Rewire: The Vital-Side Membership

-Lindsay’s Instagram: @myvitalside

-Visit Lindsay’s website

-Cait’s Instagram: @caitrossco

-Visit Cait’s Website

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